Missing Monday

At least it’s not a Manic Monday (well, it kind of was, but it also could have been far worse that it was).

I missed yesterday’s Some Thing 4 Sunday post because of the end of the holidays daze.  Not sure of what else to call it, but mostly it involved sitting in a chair rewatching old episodes of Castle after bursts of serious house cleaning, boxing and storing and sorting…

The pile of things to donate and leave the house sitting by the front door is as long as I am tall and nearly as deep.  One of my goals this year is to make my house into a place I want to live in as opposed to one I wish to flee from.

Moment of Heaven, make it happen... daily

A moment of Heaven, make it happen… daily

I grew up with hoarders; it’s taken me some time to realize that I don’t need to follow in their footsteps though.

So given that it’s a new year and many posts people are making seem to relate to goals and resolutions, let’s follow that trend.  First, let me please share a wonderful post from Daphne Gray-Grant about her take on resolutions.  For me, it makes perfect sense.  I’m not one for denial.  I need my silver linings.  It’s why I was never good at the annual “weight loss” thing so many people try (I also suspect it’s why so many people keep going back to that same resolution).

In this instance, it’s the first day of a new ROWnd of the ROW80.  (For those of you who don’t know what the ROW80 is, please take a look a the group site; I’m sure you’ll find everything you need there.)  Normally ROWers would have posted their goals for this round on Sunday or last Wednesday.  Wednesday was holiday, and yesterday was…

No matter.  My goals are simple:

  • write every day; at the minimum, do 5 sentences
  • finish a complete (rough) draft of Courting the Swan Song
  • picture of my office

    In All its Chaotic Glory

    make twice weekly blog posts (WIPpet Wednesdays and Some Thing 4 Sundays) on a consistent schedule

  • maintain active sponsor participation
  • energize myself with more physical activity
  • reclaim my writing space
  • go through some piece of my electronic home (desktop, laptop, server space, Dropbox, etc.) weekly
  • laugh more, hug my family more, share myself with friends more…  a world of more, because I’m tired of Living in the Depression*

That’s about it.  How about you?  What are your plans for these next eighty days?  Remember, it’s takes about 30 days for something to become a habit.  Then from habit to ritual…  By the end of the round, life will be a different kind of wonderful.

* It’s not as bad as it seems, but growing up in the households of my grandparents who all lived through the Great Depression, I was taught to never get rid of anything, to be ultra-frugal…  sometimes to the point of reserving myself.  And now that I look at their memories…  I know what I want to carry with me.  More is not a curse-word.

23 responses to “Missing Monday

  1. I an a true child of a famiy of pack rats – I would like to discard much but it never seems to work:(The pile of stuff already gone from the house last year makes no difference it seems to the ever encroaching pile of ‘things’ – I will not give up!:) all the best with your goals:)

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    • It’s a hard habit to break out of. I still save some of the oddest stuff… strings from catfood bags (my grandmother would weave potholders from such things), colored foil from chocolates (lots of art projects in these)… It’s a weird dichotomy of excess and stinting. May we both find a balance that best works for us.

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  2. that of course should be family!

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  3. I can appreciate the “hoarding” gene, Eden. 🙂 We are frugal, but we have to be careful not to allow stuff to encroach on our space. Lucky for me, my husband has the “get-rid-of-it” gene. Cheering you on this round. Glad to be back!!

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  4. Oh man, that tea set in the picture looks wonderful. Especially today with the cold weather outside. Good luck with your goals this round!

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    • It was a wonderful set. Of course, since getting to it would involve a lot more cold than I’m dealing with right now (I took that picture during a trip to Montreal), I’m just going to heat some water in my latte mug and enjoy that. Good luck to you too.

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  5. Love this, you said it better than I did. I am trying to shed myself of things that make me want to protect them. It’s freeing. Good luck on your goals!

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    • ..things that make me want to protect them…

      Hmm, that’s pretty close. Though I don’t want to lose the memories either. I’d love to find a better balance between the two. To feel both free and grounded. Both have their place in our lives. Good luck on finding the point of most freedom for you, Becca.

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  6. Ah, yes, the trials of those of us descended from squirrels …

    My dad was born in ’33, so his early years were also during the depression, and then the war. It’s hard for me to throw away things too, but I’m getting better!

    I like your goals. Good luck with them!

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    • Thanks, Ruth. Sounds like your experience and my won were similar (I lived with my grandparents a lot). It’s amazing how even our parent’s pasts can affect our present. Did you see that article about epigenetics that Kristen Lamb posted? Her focus was on bullying, but I’m sure there’s a trigger for hoarding as well.

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  7. I’m so happy for you. And you know I know where you’ve come from . Saw your Mom in the Price Chopper parking lot in Mechanicville on Christmas Eve. She was pulling in as I was getting ready to leave, and we shared a gig grin and a wave. =)

    Every time I have a pretty little bit of chocolate foil I don’t want to give up, I think of you. I have yet to do anything with any of them.

    I tend to want to purge this time of the year. This year, the kids seem to have caught some of that, too…so far left to travel, but I see the shape of the future, and it is good.

    Let’s plan to get together in both our houses toward the beginning and end of the year, maybe, so we can celebrate one another’s progress toward more embracing, welcoming spaces!

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    • I can just picture the wave and grin. It’s a nice homey feeling.

      Ah, yes… me and my chocolate foils… We’ve actually found some artistic uses for ours, but yeah… I can’t see most people doing that. And especially if one is in a purging frame of mind.

      That “get together” plan sounds awesome. What a nice way to celebrate some success in reclaiming our living spaces for comfort.

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  8. Reclaiming my writing space is part of my larger purge and prep for a move. I use the FlyLady plan and her declutter motto is If you’re not using it or loving it then it goes. And I have to say I’m getting better at it too 🙂

    Have a fabulous Round Eden!

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    • I keep hearing about the FlyLady plan. I MUST peek into her. Good to hear that you’re finding some real success with her format, Raelyn.

      Thanks! You too.

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  10. First of all, awesome song!

    I love your goals so much. And the ritual vs revolution link is EXACTLY what I need! THANK YOU! Good luck this round!!!

    *gives you a big hug*

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    • *hugs back*

      Glad you liked the song, Dawn. I waffled a bit on that or the Boomtown Rats, but since Mondays are really not that bad (even when they’re crazy), it ended up being an easy choice.

      Glad the link helped. And thank you. *hugs back*

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